Slut: ”a derogatory term for a sexually promiscuous woman”
Slut Shaming: “the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings. Furthermore, it’s “about the implication that if a woman has sex that traditional society disapproves of, she should feel guilty and inferior” (Alon Levy)
I’m going to stay clear of any religious or cultural propaganda while I illustrate the problems with slut-shaming and why it is ridiculous behaviour to engage in.
Let’s start off with a fact of life:
People have sex.
If you cannot accept this fact, there is probably no need to proceed any farther because I will not convince you of anything. People have sex for various reasons, mainly pleasure and procreation. Women have sex. Men have sex. Some men don’t have sex. Some women don’t have sex. It’s one great, hot, sweaty mess.
Raise your hand if you have ever been naked. There is nothing wrong with naked bodies. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a penis, a vagina, an ass, or breasts just as there is nothing wrong with a face or an arm or a thigh. Society, however, has constructed this belief that we should be ashamed of nudity. Essentially, it is collectively accepted that being naked is dirty and wrong. The whole concept that being naked is not okay is ridiculous. That is the way we are born into the world. That is our natural, raw state.
Now, we can gather that society thinks that being naked is unacceptable and we can also gather that there is a lower tolerance level for the ladies on this matter. Men do not have to wear shirts in public for instance. People won’t even think twice about that. If there is a woman wearing little clothing, people are going to automatically put some sort of defense up about how that’s unacceptable. Feminists, cock your guns.
If a woman simply even mentions sex, she’s a slut. If a woman expresses sexual desire in anyway, she’s a slut. If a woman has sex, she’s a slut. Sluts unite? The simple fact is that women are humans too. We have sexual desires. Sometimes, we act on those sexual desires. With absolutely no religious or cultural biases stepping into play here, there is nothing humanly wrong with a woman being sexually aware of herself.
It doesn’t even stop with if it is okay for a man, it is okay for a woman. We seem to be under the impression girls and women are the only ones getting slut-shamed. Men are slut-shamed as well, although not as frequently.
It’s absolutely more a discussion about the population being insecure about sex and sexuality than the actual issue of calling someone a slut. It’s more about the drive behind why we feel the need to degrade other people for wanting or enjoying sex. It would take a drastic overhaul of religious dogma, societal stigmas, cultural biases, and historical perspectives in order to completely find out why. However, in North American society, we can narrow it down to a few brief bullet-points:
- Christian foundations: The Bible is very straightforward about certain sexual prohibitions, forbidding sex before marriage, adultery, etc. but it is more the institution that has mandated that we be fearful of any act that may be considered in defiance of God. This is why “witches” were burned at stakes and drowned, because they were women who were “sexual deviants”. We are scared because of these Christian foundations regardless of whether we are devout religious or not.
- Societal Stigmas: Loosely: We’ve developed laws around sex and perversion basically making most realms of it illegal unless in private headquarters. Since we do not stop engaging in these actions, we hide them. Since we do not stop engaging in sexual actions (because is natural, primal instinct, perhaps even necessary to human development), we become ashamed of them and everything associated, i.e. nudity. We become afraid of our deviance being exposed.
- Cultural Biases: Our culture is not for example, a tribe in South Africa where women walk around without shirts. We have developed certain ways of living that reflect our ways of living.
- Historical Perspectives: Europeans essentially believed they were superior to ‘savages’ which we any tribe they came into contact with that had “lesser” morals and :savage” structure. Among the criteria was sexual behavior, nudity, etc.
Now, by showing there are reasons why we dislike so-called ‘sluts’, I do not mean to say that it is justified. I could also delve into the perspectives of other cultures, of native peoples who were here before us, of people who view sexual awareness differently. Instead, let’s just get straight to the point, shall we? It doesn’t much matter why you think it is okay to call someone else a slut, you now know why you’re wrong.
My pro tip is that you should probably mind your own god damn business.Listen, if you want to have sex, go right ahead. You have rights over your own body and your own mind. You should probably respect the exact same rights for others too. It’s their lives, their choices, their bodies. Not yours.
PREACH.
Pity they weren’t married in real life, they would be perfect
The kiss of death.
This astonishing sculpture forms part of Barcelona’s Poblenou Cemetery. The Kiss of Death (El Petó de la Mortin Catalan and El beso de la muerte in Spanish) dates back to 1930. A winged skeleton bestows a kiss on the lips of a handsome young man: is it ecstasy on his face or resignation? Little wonder the sculpture elicits strong and varying responses from whoever gazes upon it.
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Oh dear, that is, ok loved the red dress and the black thing in her head but the b&w-beetlejuice whole outfit is STUNNING! adore the green eye and the hat-umbrella and the makeup! ❤
(Source: tessmunster)
